How to SPOT A PLAYA

Peace and Blessings Family and Friends...

Ok this morning I have spoken to THREE female friends of mine and two of em told me they caught their 'man' cheating and another said she DOESN'T 'understand' 'men'....Well im glad two of the THREE bought my book...cuz i COVER all of the above... but let me break down some things for u ladies...((i'm comin OFF the top of my head but all i state is pretty much covered in my book)) but here are some ways to spot LYIN AZZ 'MEN' and their 'game'

1. It AINT about trying to FIGURE 'men' or even dating 'out' its about u knowing u LADIES!- Remember this FUNDAMENTAL law when it comes to dating: U CHOOSE US ...WE ONLY STEP TO U...but U have the FINAL say in who's hookin up and who AINT...that's POWER choose BETTER! which leads me to:

2. CHOOSING BETTER MATES AND DATES-My Sistas, there's NO WAY u can 'choose better' until u r DOING better in your own life...How you 'expect to get a 'GOOD' man if you aint 'GOOD' yourself? This means if u r NOT striving to be all u were created to be how can u expect the 'right' man to enter the door? I'm talkin career, values, physical, mental and spiritual health here...are u striving for ALL of those things in your own life..and if so...

3. You are TRULY doin YOU- If you can HONESTLY say u r living your life to the FULLEST then u r congregating to places where men who are into some of the things that u r already are...if u r into jazz u r at jazz clubs and festivals if u r into art u r at galleries and museums if u r spiritual u r at church or the mosque and so forth...this doesnt mean u r there to 'find a better man' it means that u r STRIVING to be all u can while embracing things that honor and interest u...at the end of the day that's what it's about...but....

4. If you are DOING ALL THOSE things -you are or should be trying to understand the dating world AND us 'men' better ..besides buying my book u should also be studying and optimistic about your future dating life...and in the meantime NOT settling for men who u do NOT share the same values and interests with ....in other words ((just cuz he's 'cute' or has money , game, screws well, or has a 'NICE' personality and makes u feel good does NOT mean u should be investing time in him)) if u dont have the same values and goals in life...u should lay in the cut and chill...what's the rush in finding a man? find yourself FIRST! the rest will come easy...

5. How to spot if he's lying -sometimes u can't ....but there are ways that can help...if u and dude are in a relationship....there should be no closed doors...u should be able to read his text and notes online and vice versa u should be able to go through his phone and vice versa...there's NOTHING that should be a SECRET if u two r in fact in a RELATIONSHIP...now u can make it 'fun' u can by doing a DAILY or WEEKLY or monthly check of each others bizness but make it fun and creative.. but if he has issues with this then its a SIGN that he could be playing GAMES AND CHEATING...i'm ALL for trust and privacy..but there's no way im gonna have a NEED to hide ANYTHING FROM MY woman....

6. REAL COMMUNICATION IS A MUST!!-WHEN I SAY 'REAL' communication i'm actually saying HEALTHY COMMUNICATION......THAT means that u don't communication where u r just talking to ALWAYS be right ...im talking about communication where u know how to listen, not insist on being 'right' and when u talk or communicate with your 'lover' that u speak from a place of love, compassion, and understanding all for the betterment of the relationship and growing as a person and couple...speaking of which..

7. The ONLY reason YOU SHOULD IN RELATIONSHIP IS.....TO GROW as a person and couple and come closer to GOD and/or the universe...ask yourself can or is the person u r with helping u grow as a person? Are you helping them? Are you better off (beyond the sex and money with this person) do u complement each other well?? have u talked about the future and what's the plan? both long and short tem....all these and MORE need to be discussed and thought about on a regular basis....

8. How is he OUTSIDE of the bedroom ? If he's 'EXTRA' nice JUST BEFORE sex is going down and a JERK..for much of the rest of the time...his azz is usin u for sex! ...and playing at love to ONLY get the sex....GET MY BOOK FOR more of a BREAKDOWN...

9. END YOUR RELATIONSHIP ILLITERACY now!! -LOOK LADIES ((AND GENTS)) did u take a 'relationship' course in high school? did u go through a rites of passage program that prepared u for a relationship? did u witness one while growing up between your mom and DAD OR MOM AND BOYFRIENDS? how many books have u read? how many relationship events have u gone to and ACTUALLY learned sumthin? In such a CRAZY world that's NOT currently based on or ABOUT LOVE, ..LOVE AND RELATIONSHIPS ARE NOT EASY OR 'NATURAL' THEY TAKE TIME PATIENCE UNDERSTANDING AND KNOWLEDGE... speaking of which...

10. My book is more than me JUST trying to build my business and paying some bills-Both my mother andf father died of broken hearts at relatively YOUNG ages...and we have NOW have MORE of our children (upwards of 60-70% of our kids without BOTH parents at home) what kind of ISH IS THAT?? I wonder (if the world is still here in 20 years) how will the dating options look for my 4 year old niece... what kind of world are we PREPARING FOR them?? ... well these and many other reasons are my contribution and why i wrote the book ..im SO concerned about our folk ...when we talk about relationships it ALL starts with dating and hence the reasons above and more are why we need as much info as possible...so with all that SAID .... please get a copy of my book by clicking the link below:

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